I am feeling very reflective today. Just packed up the Christmas Tree, and all the cards. Monday is the last day of 2012. Child 2 will soon be turning 10, never again will he be 1 digit, Child 3 lost his second tooth, and he too will soon be 7. He is excited as he can stop sitting in the booster seat in the car after that. Child 1 has been in a serious relationship for a year now. My Niece is getting engaged next week, and will soon be off to England to start her life with her man. My other nieces & nephews are moving on, some moving away from home , some starting new jobs, starting new schools, some expecting new babies. The other members of my family getting on with their lives too , watching their children grow up start high school, start their first year in the big world with no school, watching their children as I am watching mine, grow up and move on, just as they are meant to do. In 2012 we saw new life, and we said goodbye to the old. Life is moving on like the tides of the sea. Cast up your sails and ride the waves. No New Year expectations from me this year. I just desired much LOVE and A LOT LAUGHTER .
Sending much love to my family and friends ♥ you all know who you are. xxxx
Sunday, 30 December 2012
Soon another year is coming to a close, and a new one is preparing to start....2012 was a pretty difficult year for us, many downs, more than I care to re-live. There were also pockets of great happiness, and I grew so much, and learnt more about myself and others.
2012 taught me that not everyone is good, but some are wonderful. The trick is to figure who is who. Trust your GUT. If things are too hard, don't make sense, or a real effort to do, or what is being asked of you is causing you pain, and much heartache, then it is probably VERY WRONG for you, so LISTEN to your GUT.
2012 also taught me that when things get hard, fight harder. Fight for what you love. It is worth it. It is always darkest before the dawn.
So I hope that with the New year comes much good change and much laughter and creativity and LOVE....
Let's Welcome this year with SMILES on our faces and HOPE in our hearts for the BEST. Let's hope 2013 is TRULY the NEW AGE we have all been waiting for, and that it is BEAUTIFUL for ALL.
I wish YOU are very HAPPY 2013.
Monday, 24 December 2012
Wishing you all a safe and Happy Christmas.........from Down Under!
Now something I found that I thought you might find amusing.....
Twas The Month After Christmas
A Christmas Poem by Author Unknown
T'was the month after Christmas and all through the house
Nothing would fit me, not even a blouse.
The cookies I'd nibbled, the eggnog I'd taste.
All the holiday parties had gone to my waist.
When I got on the scales there arose such a number!
When I walked to the store (less a walk than a lumber).
I'd remember the marvelous meals I'd prepared;
The gravies and sauces and beef nicely rared,
The wine and the rum balls, the bread and the cheese
And the way I'd never said, "No thank you, please."
As I dressed myself in my husband's old shirt
And prepared once again to do battle with dirt---
I said to myself, as I only can
"You can't spend a winter disguised as a man!"
So--away with the last of the sour cream dip,
Get rid of the fruit cake, every cracker and chip
Every last bit of food that I like must be banished
Till all the additional ounces have vanished.
I won't have a cookie--not even a lick.
I'll want only to chew on a long celery stick.
I won't have hot biscuits, or corn bread, or pie,
I'll munch on a carrot and quietly cry.
I'm hungry, I'm lonesome, and life is a bore---
But isn't that what January is for?
Unable to giggle, no longer a riot.
Happy New Year to all and to all a good diet!Twas The Month After Christmas
Friday, 14 December 2012
Yesterday, after coming home from work, on a very sinking hot day here in South Australia....38 Degrees Celsius, I open my face book page and found that my hubby had shared a song, and tagged me, stating that he thought this song reminded him of us. The song was "If It's Love" by Train.
If you don't know it here are the lyrics:~
"If It's Love"
Wednesday, 12 December 2012
It just never ends! They say it comes in 3's, well we have had 4's- 5's and 6's!! Finally had the kitchen floor replaced after the white ant mess.........it took our landlord 11 months to sort that out, and the man missed one and has to come back. But we are almost there.
The stove it still broken. Hubby fixed the bathroom taps, but they are still not 100% done, but they work which is wonderful. I do love a man who can use his hands! But the tools all over my bathroom sink is starting to annoy me!
And now, on the 12th day of Christmas my darling boy gave to me ~ 1 broken clip off his Roman blind and a bloody great big headache for me!
After such a long day, (I'll get to that part in a minute), child 2 broke, by accident, the hook of his Roman Blind. We have now made a make-shift support with some blue tac. ( That is my big Macgyver moment).Well Hubby is at work, and I had nothing else! But I fear the bloody thing will come down again during the night! I have no idea how to fix that, and there is no curtain rod either? Double brick too so not that simple to install with out the right tools, and we are not tool type of people.
Between this and school, and work crazy's, I am so over this SILLY SEASON. I have still have things to get ready for Xmas, and I am really loosing my holiday (the tiny spark that was there) cheer! I am having one of those I want to put my head in a bucket and not come out to the world moments! The cat is going to have her litter any day too by the look of her, it's all happening too much, too fast, too expensive, just TOO! lol
I will get through this, and come out the other end. I have just located a local handyman, so I am waiting to hear back on costs. I just want everything to be boring for a while. Boring and CHEAP, FREE would be better.
Hubby is back at work tonight after he did his disc with a sneeze! Man we are a bloody great pair. It's been 2 weeks with out pay. Just my income, and that isn't much. So thank heavens for the savings. I guess that is why we save! So I am grateful for that.
Life is supposed to get easy, not harder. I get scared over the future. Really scared. The cost of living is rising, and we are now ended for big trouble unless something gives with this bullshit carbon tax and the like.
Child 1 looks as if she will be moving out soon. She is hardly here as is any more. She has grown up too fast. I actually miss our chats. Not the moody teenage grumbles, but the nice girl chatter, and giggles.
Let's hope we can just get things sorted, and then just relax for a bit.
If there was ever a time for a lotto win, now is it! Just putting it out there!! Hint Hint....
My brother's daughter, got in touch too, she is coming to Adelaide with her hubby for some concert next year and wants to come see me. I haven't said anything to Hubby yet, as we have had too much else to worry about. I can't have them stay with us, we just have no room to house them, but I think she just wants to pop in for the day, I think, it was all a bit vague? I know that Hubby will have NO Interest in wanting to see them. He isn't going to be thrilled about it, as he wasn't thrilled about me getting in touch with them again. But on face book it is safe. I can be apart of their life and them mine, without all the family mess, and drama. We have enough of our own to deal with! Coming to my door is not in the plan. It's complicated. I think I am going to have to try meet them in the city, and just keep it separate. I too would love to see her again, it has been a LONG time. She was just in her early teens when we left. I just am not part of her world any more, and the whole thing has really made me a bit un-easy.
I still don't have dates yet, I am just rambling with all my rants atm. They really should call this the Ranting Season, instead of the Festive Season! I am alone, in the dark, and my head is spinning with all the things on my to do list. I have told you most of this already, or have I? I am not sure, I have written this out a few times tonight already!
Last night was pretty rough. Child 3 has been in the wars, at school, and got into at tit for tat with a teacher. He came off second best. He was then subjected to 30 mins of a screaming teacher after school, who set me off, and the poor lad had both his teacher and his mother frustrated and really pissed off. Result of such poor handling skills~ he was screaming with bad dreams in his sleep, and then wet the bed! So afterwards hubby got him to explain why he had told his teacher to "SHUT-UP and listen!" We discovered that he actually had very good reason too. Not only that, the same teacher left him,(keep in mind he is 6), alone out on the open oval, and walked away, out of sight, behind a school block, and then when Child 3 who was scared to bits out in the middle of an empty school oval, ran after his class, was forced back to his time out spot, and left there crying until another teacher came by and asked why he was standing there all alone. Now Child 3 will cop a well deserved time out, and to his credit, (as he is a handful) , he is always honest. BUT he will not stand by and take it when he is innocent. In this case he was, and the teacher had accused him of doing something he didn't, and would not let him speak up, so Child 3 just told him to SHUT-UP. I probably would have too!
So, of course now that I had both sides to the story, and the teacher's side did not included the fact that he had left a very upset, scared, ADHD child, ALONE, unattended, where he could have run off into the near by wetlands, or heavens knows what? Then punished him for throwing what he called "A full on baby tantrum". Me, MUM, was left feeling GUILTY! For I was so annoyed at him for getting into trouble. I had to listen to his class teacher, not the one who left him, yell about how rude he was, and how she had enough of his behaviour, and that she wasn't going to put up with him any more and he could spend the last four days of school in the office, blah, blah, blah.... I was tired, in pain, and had been at work all day. I had doctors appointments to get to for Hubby and child 2, and shopping to do, and it was too much to cope with without LUNCH! So YES I WAS GUILTY. Guilty that I didn't stop and ask the simply question WHY? Such a small little word, but what a powerful one. I guess I can't be perfect all the time?
So I was up, mad as hell, (mostly at myself), crying, and frustrated, but mostly GUILTY for failing my baby. Hubby sat up with me and we talked all night about what to do about our ever disruptive boy! We came up with some pretty good ideas, and will use the holiday break to try and get it started. At least we now know without any more doubt, we WILL give the meds a try!
Then when we got to school, I got him to show me where all this happened. I was in detective mode. After all trying to put together the story, from a small boy with ADHD takes some doing. I did get confused several times, as he told me things out of sequence, but we got there in the end. After all if I was going to speak up to the teacher, I had to be sure of the facts.This only made it worse, as it was a lot more isolated than I had imagined. People cut through that school oval all the time. Not a safe place to leave a small child, especially one who acts before thinking. So I went in and very calmly, explained to his teacher what kind of a night we have all had, she could tell by my looks that I had not had a good night, and she was shocked that this other teacher hadn't told her the whole story. Thankfully after two years of teaching our son, she knows only too well how honest he is, and knows too that when he is falsely accused he will stand his ground and fight. Not really a bad thing in my book, but not something that schools wish to encourage. They want non thinking SHEEP, well sorry we didn't raise our kids that way.
I felt that I had now redeemed myself, and his teacher was again back to her normal self, and child 3 had a pretty good day, as he got to stay in class, and get play time, and the bad tag was removed. He was also allowed to attend the pizza movie night at school too.Teachers these days are just so not on the ball any more, nor do they seem to really want to teach! Like hubby put it....if child 3 was in a wheel chair they wouldn't keep yelling at him to get up and walk! So why, when they know he processes things differently, do they expect him understand things like other children? He can't. He really had no real idea yesterday why we were all so upset with him.
I did give him a huge hug on the way to the car, as I thought he needed to know that despite the fact that I was mad at him, I still loved him. The hug resulted in us loosing our balance, and me falling to the foot path with my little boy following on top. Nothing up a grazed elbow, and a mocking laugh from child 2 cheek brat! I think I need 6 weeks away from the place just as much as the boys do.
I LOVE MY KIDS MUCH. After a long chat to my wonderful friend Jenny, I have spoken about her before, she keeps me sane, she is my angel, we decided that next Tuesday night we are taking the boys for a late night drive to see the Christmas lights. I am so looking forward to it. It is going to be so much FUN. I have wanted to do that with the boys for such a long time, but we have always been at work at night. So this is a real treat.
Child 1 is going to be working Xmas day, she wants the extra cash. So it will just be hubby and I and the boys, and my cooking! lol
I found some nice popper crackers this year at a cheap shop. Not just hats and a lame joke, these ones have a gift inside. I thought it would be a bit more exciting for the kids. OK, maybe I thought it would be more fun for me too, but ssshhhh, don't blow my cover!
Child 2 wants to learn the keyboard next year, and Child 3 wants to be a rock star and play guitar. They have gotten into music, and they both really like Queen and Michael Jackson. I found both artists greatest hits CD's on eBay, both for just over $25, and that is what we are giving them on there birthdays, which follow Christmas rather too closely. I got a cheap keyboard for Child 2 for $50 and he will get the Michael Jackson CD to go with it, and a $10 robot and Queen CD for child 3, who goes around singing 'Bohemian Rhapsody' all the time.
Music lessons are expensive, but I the boys need to have something to zone out in. Something just for them. It's just that we are not sure how to fit it in with car, elect, rent, food, Child 3's reading/writing lessons, school/uni fees, uniforms, swimming and drama.
When did it get so complicated? Was it this bad for my mum and dad too?
I have had to really cut corners the last few months, and it has paid off thank fully. So many people are in the same vote. It could be worse though. So many people who have lost their homes, there loved ones, jobs even. They are hungry, sick, living in poor conditions, and suffering war. so compared to that , we are very well off indeed.
I still have much to be very grateful for.
I just needed to push this out there. Remove it from my head, and just let it go.
All I want for Xmas is a good laugh and happy smiling kids. I hope you have a happy peaceful Xmas too.
Thanks for listening.
Saturday, 8 December 2012
Nurse In Duchess Kate's Phone Hoax Found Dead From Apparent SuicideFriday 12/07/12
In a shocking and tragic turn of events, the nurse who took the prank call to Duchess Kate in the hospital has been found dead from an apparent suicide. INSIDE EDITION reports.
Now this story has left me feeling very sad.
Pranks are NEVER funny. They hurt people. It is a laugh at the expense of someone else. Not COOL.
When I was in my early teens I was a victim of a prank call. We had not long had the phone out in. It was a big deal.
I was home alone one night, and was having a shower before bed. The phone rang, so I grabbed a towel and went rushing to answering it. On the other end was a man/boy who told me that he knew I was alone, and that he wasn't far away. He said he had been watching me, and that he and his mate, where coming over very soon, and they were going to show me a REALLY GOOD TIME!
Lucky guess, I am sure that they had no idea who I was, or if I was indeed alone. I couldn't call my mother, remember these were the days when mobile phones didn't exist, so I did the next best thing, I FREAKED OUT.
Now these boys! Would have had no idea that the girl they had basically just told they were coming over to rape, was only just recently getting over being sexually abused. I was so scared. Dripping wet, I just grabbed my night dress and slipped in on over my wet body, and I ran. It was winter, so it was very dark, and cold outside. All I could think of was RUN. GET OUT, RUN.
I left our house wide open. Front door ajar, lights on, I didn't stop to grab a dressing gown or slippers, I just ran.
I reached the door of our recently moved into the area neighbours. Thinking back I was lucky I chose their house, but what if I had chosen wrong and ran from the flames into the fry pan? I banged on their door like a raving lunatic. I was on auto pilot. I could have run across the street and got hit by a car! I just knew I had to get away.
I was in shock, and not making much sense. I was just crying, and saying 'he is going to rape me.' My neighbour took me inside and took me upstairs to his wife, and sat me by the heater, and his wife got me a blanket while a shivered uncontrollably on their lounge chair.Their little boy, who was about 2 came and sat next to me and just stared.
They wanted to call the police, and the doctor, as they though someone had actually hurt me. I must have looked a right sight. I had climbed the fence and went through some bushes. Once I stopped crying long enough to answer his concerned questions, he grabbed his shot gun and took me home to get some warm clothes, check the house, leave a note for my mother,and lock up the house.
They let me stay in their house, made me a cup of tea, and wait till my mother got home, and come and fetch me. To say for the next few days, I was looking over my shoulder is an understatement. My mother had to take me to the doctors to get me some drugs to settle me down.
Point is, the people who do these things have no idea what the person they are trying to trick has been through.
This nurse made a big mistake. A mistake she would not have made if two Australian radio personality's hadn't thought it would be a laugh to act like the QUEEN. So Kate is in hospital for morning sickness. She wouldn't be the first mother in the world to do so. It is private. Leave them the fuck alone. Or do we want another Princess Diana on our hands?
We don't know what this nurses life was like? How sad she was, what she was dealing with. All we know is this incident sadly tipped her over the edge.
Can you image the trouble she was in? The hospital board, alone. She may have been faced with a fine, loss of job, and she was certainly faced with the WHOLE WORLD, literally, knowing she had spoken about a patient on an Australian national radio station and had it beamed about the social media networks, TV, and newspapers into EVERYONE'S faces. Everyone now knew who she was, and what she did.
Is this a reason to kill yourself? No. But it may have been the cherry on top for this woman? We do not know what happened to her after that? We don't know what punishment she was headed for? Breech of confidentiality is a big deal. Making it a member of the Royal family only makes it 50 time worse!
PRANKS are NEVER FUNNY, and I hope that these two radio presenters learn a valuable lesson from this. I would not want to be them and having the death of someone on my conscience! I feel for the nurses family and friends, work mates, who now have this sad event hanging over them this Christmas.
Don't mess with people for fun. You don't have any idea what damage you may be causing!
Friday, 7 December 2012
1.Play a sport.
It will teach you how to win honourably,
lose gracefully, respect authority,
work with others, manage your time and stay out of trouble.
And maybe even throw or catch.
2. You will set the tone for the sexual relationship, so don't take something away from her that you can't give back.
3. Use careful aim when you pee. Somebody's got to clean that up, you know.
4. Save money when you're young because you're going to need it someday.
5. Allow me to introduce you to the dishwasher, oven, washing machine, iron, vacuum, mop and broom. Now please go use them.
6. Pray and be a spiritual leader.
7. Don't ever be a bully and don't ever start a fight, but if some idiot clocks you, please defend yourself.
8. Your knowledge and education is something that nobody can take away from you.
9. Treat women kindly. Forever is a long time to live alone and it's even longer to live with somebody who hates your guts.
10. Take pride in your appearance.
11. Be strong and tender at the same time.
12. A woman can do everything that you can do. This includes her having a successful career and you changing nappy's at 3 A.M.
Mutual respect is the key to a good relationship.
13. "Yes ma'am" and "yes sir" still go a long way.
14. The reason that they're called "private parts" is because they're "private". Please do not scratch them in public.
15. Peer pressure is a scary thing. Be a good leader and others will follow.
16. Bringing her flowers for no reason is always a good idea.
17. It is better to be kindthan to be right.
18. A sense of humourgoes a long way in the healing process.
19. Please choose your spouse wisely. My daughter-in-law will be the gatekeeper for me spending time with you and my grandchildren.
20. Remember to call your mother because I might be missing you.
Monday, 3 December 2012
Feeling like mum's TAXI today!
- Took boys to school 8.30 am.
- Took myself to work 9 am.
- Was asked to return to work for a 6.30 pm meeting - pizza supplied for dinner, (nice) no extra pay, (not so nice) .
- Stressed during to day over how I would juggle everything so I could go back. (I said I would try. I really hate saying no!)
- Got home with 20 mins free, got changed, and then whisked Hubby off to the Chiro for his 2.40 pm. He still isn't in good shape.
- Thanked my wonderful girlfriend Jenny, for collecting the boys from school for me at 3 pm. I would have been very late. She is really my angel. I love her to bits.
- Then left home for my Physio appointment at 3.30 pm.
- Promised Jenny I'd be back for a cuppa by around 4 pm ish??
- Physio running late, Jenny couldn't wait, and Child 1 calls to say that work at asked her to work tonight and can I drive her...when? 7.30 pm.
- No chance of getting to that meeting , so I called work to explain. (At least that gave me a real excuse)
- Stopped by Sam's Warehouse to pick up missing screws off Child 1's new book shelf.
- Waited 20 mins while they went looking for spares.
- Got home at 5 pm. Handed over screws and was told that they are wrong, and not enough. We plan to go in with the whole box and swap it for a new one in the morning, before child 1's dental appointment, and hubby's doctor's appointment.
- Now drinking a cup of tea. 1st of the day, and then off to doctor's for Zac and his planter wart at 5.20 pm.
- Came back and Child 1 had made dinner. I was starving. I had skipped lunch. THANK YOU, it was so nice to have someone else feed me.
- Now just have to stay up and pick her up tonight at 11 pm.
- Am now about to fill in my annual leave form and see if I can get 2 weeks off in January and just have some chill out time with the kids. I think I need a break.
Friday, 30 November 2012
This morning I was approached by a mum at school who was upset with Child 2 aged 9. He was apparently discussing
at his table during class yesterday the fact that he didn't believe in Santa and he believed we in fact are Santa. Her
daughter over heard this and quickly confronted her mother, asking her if he was right in his beliefs.
She (the mother) was upset because we had put her in a position where she had to "LIE TO HER DAUGHTER!" lol
Well excuse me, haven't you been lying for the past 10 years?? Honestly!
She then again caught up with me while I was walking to my car, now pushing the limits on me getting to work on
time and continued the discussion, about Santa and the tooth fairy while she was driving along in her car as I walked
frantically on the footpath! I would have loved to have had a chat over coffee, about the do's and don't's of
parenting, but lady I'm in my uniform, walking briskly towards my parked car, after already spending 10 mins
discussing this with you in the classroom. PLEASE LET ME GO!!!
SANTA IS NOT REAL. DON'T LIE TO YOUR KIDS! That is what I wanted to say to her. But I didn't, instead I listened,
and suggested ways she could soften the blow, and stupidly feeling almost guilty for NOT LYING to my SON!
We still have Santa presents, but our kids know that it is us. They were always told that the Santa's in the shops were
not the real Santa. My kids caught on very early that they all looked different. No point trying to cover that up.
I just said, if you want to believe in him that's OK. It's like Fairies. If you don't believe in them, then they are not
real for you. Peter Pan helped me out there. But People who do believe in them, they are REAL to them, and that's
OK. I guess we learn't our mistake with child 1. One year we sat down to watch a documentary about the history
of the Christmas Tree. Well didn't that spill the beans, and we had to come clean. I guess it is some kind of rite of
passage for us all. We get caught up in the hype, and lie to our kids, and then dig a huge whole for ourselves
when they figure it all out. So we decided not to ever lie to them about anything again. And we still get to have
fun at Christmas, and now we get all the praise instead of some fat guy in a suit! lol
This is how my day started.
Work didn't improve things. We had work men in and they accidently cut some power cables, which shut down all
our lights , and all the cash registers. So nothing was working.
Have you ever been in a shopping centre, full of busy Christmas shoppers, who just want to buy their over priced
goods and get the hell out?
It was a very intense, and interesting 10-15 mins. Thankfully most people where very understanding. But there were
a few who just could not comprehend that until we had the systems back on line there was nothing we could do! You
have to love retail!
I got out of work a tad late, and couldn't do the planned shopping before I got home, as that would make me late to
do the school run. Hubby hurt his back on Tuesday, and he is in a bit of a state at the moment. So I have been
trying to stay on top of things, and not doing a good job of it as my back is all flared up too. Great pair!
Our boys have been very FULL ON, especially Child 3, and today it drove us over the edge.
On top of housework piling up, shopping that needed doing, the lack of income as hubby can't work atm, there were
a few too many appointments to attend, and now without Hubby to share the load, I was overwhelmed as to how to
So we decided to just cancel a few. Suddenly I felt a huge weight lift off. It is OK, I don't have to be all over the place.
Child 3 can wait till January for his expensive extra education lessons, and instead I can be free to get hubby to the
Chiro and the doctor's instead. Child 2 has a planter wart on his foot, so we have weekly visits to the doctor to have it
cut. I am treating it with wart kill, and it is slowly dying. Ugly bloody things.
Child 1 has, after blaming us for all her uni woes, left us in this state to be with her boyfriend. Now when having her
home would be such a huge support, she just can't see it, and I am not going to beg. She actually sent a text
message tonight asking her dad if he would pick her up after work and drive her back to the boyfriends house!
Excuse me...........DAD can't even walk well! That is what we are dealing with here!!! KIDS! How about you come
home, and lend a hand, not just when you need to wash your clothes!
Sorry I am ranting again!!
I am happy that I have taken back some control, and practised some time management skills. The dishes can wait ,
no one will die if the washing isn't done today.
I am but one woman................I am good, but even I can not perform miracles.
I am still a worry wart, and until I get on top of Christmas I will still be in this state of restless panic. I think the kids will
just have to accept that this year might be a little lean. Not unless I can perform a little magic myself that is ??
Well hopefully Saturday will bring some more order to the madness, and I can catch up on some much needed
housework after work. I must stop gabbing now, and put myself to bed. I have to be up at 5 am.......ewe
Now child 3 is very quiet and yes, he has gone to sleep watching his movie. So I shall leave you and go tuck him into
bed, (they are so much more loveable when they are asleep), and do the same for myself. This Santa is all worn out!
Have a lovely weekend everyone. Smiles and Hugs to you all.